So, I'll turn fifty in January. Never thought I’d openly admit that to
anyone. I certainly don’t act my age and likely never will. But the truth is, I’m actually looking
forward to it (turning fifty, not acting my age). The celebratory trip to Scotland next summer might have
something to do with that. But it’s not
just the trip – I have a new mindset now to go with this next chapter. I intend to live the next phase of my life the
way less traveled, in that, doing the unexpected and not only embracing -
but instigating - change. I am
reinventing myself. I even have my first
tattoo finally picked out to commemorate this milestone (sort of, it’s down to
two and yes, it will be a skull ;) But
more importantly, I am going to follow my restless heart.
I had an epiphany about a year and a half ago, driving along I-680 North under
a full moon, with the windows down and Runrig blasting out of the
speakers. I saw myself standing at the
edge of my final day on earth and as I looked back on my life I was asked “do
you have any regrets?” That’s a pretty
telling question to ask yourself. What regrets will haunt me after all my chances
are gone? I don’t regret anything
that I’ve done, but there are things I regret not having done. Most of those have to do with geography and
ignoring a decades-long yearning in my heart.
It doesn’t even have anything to do with relationships; I’m okay with
being single the rest of my life. What
I’m no longer okay with is standing still.
I felt alive with a sense of power that I could, at this stage
in my life, set myself on a new course.
There was no reason why I couldn’t chase after my dreams and
find the answers that have eluded me.
The only thing stopping me was me.
The core question to be answered – where would I finally feel settled?
Currently, I live in my hometown.
I was born here and with the exception of four years right after high
school, have lived here my entire life.
Most of my family is here. But
does that make it home? I think that if I have a restlessness in my
heart and a yearning to be someplace else, even if I don’t know where that
someplace is, then I’m not ‘home.’ And
I’ve had that yearning since I was a teenager.
I always felt like I was just living here, but I never felt truly
connected. Now that my kids are older
and I will be an ‘empty-nester’ within the next couple years, change is on the
horizon. It will most definitely consist
of relocating, quitting my job of twenty years and starting over someplace
else. Scary thought, but the thought of
staying here in the same town the rest of my life is scarier. It’s just not me. Someplace is calling me, and I’m going to figure
out where and chase that dream to my satisfaction. I don’t know where I’ll end up, but it’s
going to be someplace that speaks to my soul.
I think that following the road less traveled is going to lead me home.
©
Dahlia Ramone, April 22, 2015
Runrig
– May Morning Lyrics
I'm
alive again on a Maymorning
Going to wipe the slate clean
Follow my dreams
All the yearning buds are here again
With the promise of a new life to come
Spring is here again
The sun is melting over the hills
All our roads are waiting
To be revealed
For this day in history has brought us to here
Now it's all there for the taking
The day is what you see
The light's returning, the work is in hand
All the cynics have vanished
From where we stand
All the chances wasted are drawing me near
And all around there's new life rising
From the winter fields
I'm alive again
I'm alive again
Going to wipe the slate clean
Follow my dreams
All the yearning buds are here again
With the promise of a new life to come
Spring is here again
The sun is melting over the hills
All our roads are waiting
To be revealed
For this day in history has brought us to here
Now it's all there for the taking
The day is what you see
The light's returning, the work is in hand
All the cynics have vanished
From where we stand
All the chances wasted are drawing me near
And all around there's new life rising
From the winter fields
I'm alive again
I'm alive again
***
This was written for Blogophilia Week 9.8
Topic: The Way
Less Traveled
Bonus Points:
(Hard, 2 pts) Incorporate a line from
the movie "Steel Magnolias" (I did not)
(Easy, 1 pt) Include a full moon somewhere in
your write